Grieving over the loss of someone that you loved is one of the most difficult things that you will ever have to do and this blog is dedicated to helping you do that in a healthy way. Grieving is normal after the loss of someone that you cared about, and everybody grieves differently, in their own way, and begins the recovery process at their own pace.
This time of stay at home is especially difficult for most people who have lost someone, because many of the ways that people begin the grieving process are not available. Funerals, and the comfort of being with family members and friends are all part of saying good bye and starting down the road to recovery. The past several blogs have been about how to avoid delayed grieving when people can’t grieve in the normal way.
Mygrievingplace readers have said that they find some comfort using video calling to stay connected to family and friends. Although it’s not the same as in person human contact such as a caring hug, it’s better than complete isolation. Other readers have joined online grief groups or online meetups with people who have similar interests to their own.
Here, then are some grief recovery strategies from the American Psychological Association: (www.apa.org)
Mourning the loss of a close friend or relative takes time, but research tells us that it can also be the catalyst for a renewed sense of meaning that offers purpose and direction to life.
- Talk about the death of your loved one with friends or colleagues in order to help you understand what happened and remember your friend or family member. Avoidance can lead to isolation and will disrupt the healing process with your support systems.
- Accept your feelings. You may experience a wide range of emotions from sadness, anger or even exhaustion. All of these feelings are normal and it’s important to recognize when you are feeling this way. If you feel stuck or overwhelmed by these emotions, it may be helpful to talk with a licensed psychologist or other mental health professional who can help you cope with your feelings and find ways to get back on track.
- Take care of yourself and your family. Eating healthy foods, exercising and getting plenty of sleep can help your physical and emotional health. The grieving process can take a toll on one’s body. Make sure you check in with your loved ones and that they are taking the necessary healthy steps to maintain their health.
- Reach out and help others dealing with the loss. Spending time with loved ones of the deceased can help everyone cope. Whether it’s sharing stories or listening to your loved one’s favorite music, these small efforts can make a big difference to some. Helping others has the added benefit of making you feel better as well.
- Remember and celebrate the lives of your loved ones. Anniversaries of a lost loved one can be a difficult time for friends and family, but it can also be a time for remembrance and honoring them. It may be that you decide to collect donations to a favorite charity of the deceased, passing on a family name to a baby or planting a garden in memory. What you choose is up to you, as long as it allows you to honor that unique relationship in a way that feels right to you.